Losing Friends


This topic is a little sensitive for me and to be honest in the beginning of my spiritual journey I didn’t think that I would have to worry about losing friends. After all, we had been through so much together, single life, drinking, partying, arguing only to make up, trips, family deaths, the list goes on and on. The two friends I considered to be my sisters would understand the change in my life. Matter of fact, they would support me and encourage me right? Wrong!

Being a Christian is not easy, we are quickly judged and honestly by people who are not educated on Christ. It is a hard road and I contemplated many times giving up and falling back into my old ways, but instead, I blasted the Christian music on my iPhone and worshipped until I felt better. I had several conversations with my husband about how lonely I was starting to feel. I was no longer being invited to outings and I stopped getting my daily text from my girlfriends. It hurt, beyond belief but I trusted in my Lord and trusted my journey. I had a few conversations with some of the ladies at church and they expressed how they had went through this too when they first changed their life and became more involved in their faith.

One night my husband and I were talking and he asked me if I had ever prayed for Christian friends. I laughed because I thought this was silly but then I saw his face and soon realized he was being serious. I thought about it for a few seconds and told him I had not. That night feeling silly, I included the request for my Christian friends in my prayer. The next day I carried on with my day and headed to church on that Tuesday to attend a group I began attending at the church. I brought my husband that night and was immediately greeted by some of the ladies I had met in the group.

As my husband and I sat down at our seats he had a smirk on his face. I asked him what the smirk was for and he simply replied, “See you do have friends.” He was 100% correct, although my friends weren’t anything like my old friends, they share the same passion I do for Our Lord. I don’t feel silly talking to them about my experiences, I love how they love Our Lord, I love how they encourage me when I am an emotional wreck, and I love how non-judgmental they are. See, although I lost some of the friends in my old season, God provided me with more equipped friends that were going to lead me closer to Him in my new season.

We may not understand His ways, but as Francesca Battistelli says in her song, “Hallelujah, you have saved me …so much better your way!” (Song: Defender By: Francesca Battistelli & Steffany Gretzinger)

1 Peter 3:12-19 and 1 Peter 3:14-17 Talks about everything I just described above!

Sirena Batts